runnerwolf

I am actually alive, just been in a bit of a depressive shell.
So it has been nearly a year since I moved to the Boston area from Seattle.

- I found work (doing the same tasks I have been doing for years but for a public school system in the area)
- Paul and I got married just over two months ago.   (We are behind on Post-Wedding tasks because...)
- We have both survived the beginning of the school year (I support 4 Elementary Schools, he teaches HS)
- I miss Seattle terribly, but am getting my bearings slowly but surely here.
- I miss my friends/family in Seattly even more than I miss the climate (cultural and weather)
- I do generally like that there is a filk sing out here once a month
- I like watching the sunset over the pond outside my apartment
- My mother-in-law and I get along well
- The cat has fully adapted to having two humans
- I am on two concoms on opposite coasts now...  (shush...  I am working on the Helium hand, just not well)
- I am slowly making new friends out here, but despite what so many people think I really am an introvert, so it is a slow process.

I will be at:  OVFF (Columbus), GAFilk (Atlanta), Arisia (Boston), Conflikt (Seattle), ConComCon (Seattle), ConCertino (Boston) and Sasquan (Spokane) for certain.

I think I will be at Boskone as well, but I don't have a membership for that one yet.

As of Saturday I am giving marriage a second chance, happyfunpaul. and I got married.  The ceremony was beautiful and small.

I am very happy with the decision to marry him, and make that commitment to him.  I am looking forward to Seattle, where the role of "I have known Paul for x years" will be reversed though.:)

Between now and then is Detcon, which we were going to anyway, but are now treating as a nominal honeymoon.

are on Facebook (Rita Harlow) for anyone that used to be in touch with them and lost it.  They also both have e-mail accounts if you want to let me know you want them.

And I am not going to go into everything going on right now.

I am working, for a Public School district close to home, and supporting the 4 Elementary schools iy has.  My desk is of course at the High School.

Today was surreal in that one of the schools was having "Colonial Day"  I spent a large chunk of my day there and kept thinking... 'This is not something they would do in Seattle'

It was an interesting contrast in my head.

happyfunpaul & I will be getting married.

Here are some preemptive answers…

1. Isn’t this a bit fast?

For those of you following along at home, yes. No one could accuse us of dawdling on most things.
As I pointed out to my dear former spouse (when asked this question by him), I decided I would be marrying him 6 months after we had started dating. I just got lucky that Paul and I figured it out at about the same rate.

2. How?

Thursday morning we proposed to each other (yes this means we planned on when and where to propose so that it would be a mutual request and response). We then called my family and then went to have a nice lunch together.
Since it was planned there really wasn’t a question about the answer. Knowing the answer meant we could each enjoy the ritual of asking without the responsibility for the question belonging to either one of us individually.

3. When?

Still working on this. The getting married itself will probably only be a handful of people for each of us, so save the date cards are not likely to be going out,
There are practical pieces that could slow things down, or perhaps speed them up. We will let people at large know the exact when, but celebration(s) are likely to be less formal.

4. Where?

Any initial ritual will likely be held in Boston.

We do plan to have gatherings in Boston and in the PNW, but they will also likely be informal and we will let people know well ahead of time. (I may ask for some logistics help from friends out there).

5. Wait… Paul? Married? I think I missed a memo…..

That actually wouldn’t be hard to do. The last 7 months have been a blur for me and I am living them. If you want the full story and missed the memo (which I have looked around a couple of times over the last few months to make sure I didn’t miss one) just let me know and I will try to fill you in.

6. Have you checked in with your guides?

Yeah, I checked with the bag of rocks. They were very supportive of Paul and I getting married.

I also did some journey work around it, and some systemic constellations processes as well.

I think everyone on that plane had a good chuckle at me calling space for it, since I don’t know any of the mountain names around here yet.

7. That’s all well and good… but what does Explorer think of all this?

Well Paul is a better master of the little red dot than I am. This seems to make him a more than adequate secondary human.

I am sitting at my second con in 2 weeks (GAFilk last week, Arisia this week) working on emails for the SWOC meeting tomorrow, last minute prep for Conflikt next weekend, putting off figuring out the week between Conflikt and Foolscap until after I have slept.

Still do not have a job.

Home life is going well, except for the fun of not having a job.

Christmas went well.  The family liked Paul, he says he actually mostly liked them.

Other than cons and not "working" life is going well.

I miss Seattle weather though.

Hey Seattlites,  Currently I have a flight coming in on Thursday before Conflikt (1 week from today)

Current flight back to Boston is on Monday night.   I would like to extend my trip until after Foolscap for a few reasons:

1) Better visit chances
2) sorting through a few more things in my storage unit
3) possible ceremony work

For me to do that I need to find
1)  Places to stay mon, tues, wed, thurs, fri, sat
2) Possible car/ride borrowing 

I am putting together info for Cover Letters and Resume...

I was wondering about any insight &/or examples any of you might have about what you have seen in any of the following:

1.     Personal Values:
a.     Clarity in Communication
b.     Mentoring
c.      Health of Community
d.     Health within the Community
e.     Never-ending Learning
f.      Service to Community
g.     Sitting in Silence
h.     Listening to the other
i.       Seeing the other
j.       Helping Systems in Transition
k.     Creating Space for Creativity
l.       Creating Space for Learning

2.     Volunteering
a.     Tutoring in High School
b.     Extended Care Unit
c.      Continuing Care Floor at UH of Cleveland
d.     Free Clinic Crisis Line in Cleveland
e.     Palliative Care and Hospice
f.      Norwescon Computers
g.     Norwescon Programming
h.     Communications Workshop
i.       Mental Health informational presentations

There are a few things that I will need to find fairly quickly when I get to Boston area.

1.  Chiropractor   -   The move is wiping my hip out and I've gotten at least 1 major migraine.  I have a chiropractor appointment on Wednesday, but by OVFF it would be good to have another one.

2.   Primary Care   -   My current is an ARNP with a good handle on dealing with ADHD and Bi-Polar.    I would love to find that combo again.   Someone that listens, and is straight with me (to the point of concernedly blunt) would be doable

3.   Mechanic   -   The tags on my car run out on 11/2.  This means that my Subaru will need to go in and get inspected and I will get to go to the licensing people before OVFF

Any Suggestions  (Waltham/Newton area preferable, though I do currently drive to a point 30 minutes away from anything else I have to see my ARNP)